This is the ideal time to determine the roles of the sexes.
First, when it comes to Leadership, we have seen that God's definition of Leadership (OUGHT) is "a person who facilitates the Purpose and Progress of others".
We have seen the characteristics of BOSS are:
-want to be treated as if they are LESS excellent than their followers
-are exclusive
-are focused on APPEARANCE
-can't publicly admit they are wrong
-use the physical to berate others because they make the physical a cause
-expect support BECAUSE they are wrong (loyalty)
-don't know the causes because they are focused on effects
-don't realize respect is an effect of being humble
-and cannot explain God's doctrine in a non-contradictory and specific manner
When we look at the world's (and traditional church's) definition of a "man", we see that it lines up perfectly with BOSS!
God made males to NATURALLY act as BOSSES. The question becomes should we encourage males to remain in their nature and act like BOSSES...or should we encourage males to act apart from their nature and allow God to flow through them?
I believe God's definition of Leader results in people becoming MORE able to do God's Will over time. In fact, I believe the man-made contradictory traditional definition of "Leader" (BOSS) actually results in us getting increasingly further away from accomplishing God's Will!
Think about the traditional definition of "Leader" (BOSS)...It is NOT possible for all of us to facilitate our own Purpose and Progress at the expense of others.
Leaders operate according to causality...they provide the cause in order to get the desired effect.
Bosses operate opposite of causality...they attempt to get the effect without providing a reason or a cause.
"Man" according to the world and traditional churches is a being focused on the physical...focused on effects.
Males are NATURALLY focused on effects. Males are NATURALLY BOSSES.
Should we REINFORCE a male's NATURE?
IS Response: God WANTS males to act like BOSSES. ("Whatever is, is right.")
OUGHT Response: God WANTs males to act apart from this nature and be Leaders.
The IS definition for "man" according to the world and traditional churches is "the sex of our species that focuses on the physical, and ultimately, the EFFECTS."
The OUGHT definition for "man" is "the sex of our species that OUGHT to be focused on the CAUSES regardless of the EFFECTS".
EVERYTIME A MALE DOES DAMAGE IT IS BECAUSE HE IS FOCUSED ON THE EFFECTS.
Notice, if the male is focused solely on the causes then he cannot control the effects. So the first effect of being a "man" is that he is HUMBLE. He can ONLY stay focused on the causes if he humbles himself and allows God's NATURE to flow through him.
We have stated this several times before: the best a group of men can achieve is "NOT Unprofitable". There are NO EXAMPLES in the Bible of a group composed SOLELY of males being Profitable in the Long Term. We saw that even The Trinity is "NOT Unprofitable". How could The Trinity interact with each other in a manner that results in gain? Everything The Trinity created has returned LESS value than what it took to create it. To think that we have returned MORE value to The Trinity than what They gave to us is to make us superior to The Trinity. Be careful.
The Trinity created The Bride so that The Trinity could interact with each other in a Profitable manner FOREVER.
Notice, our society needs people who do the causes EVEN WHEN they know the effects are Unprofitable. The reason WHY? Because if they don't do it, it will become CATASTROPHICALLY Unprofitable.
Think about war, a burning building, or a child that has fallen down a well. When each of these situations is handled as well as possible, is the result Profitable? Are the soldiers BETTER off after the war than they were before the war? Is the house that caught fire better than when it caught fire? Is the kid healthier than before they fell down the well? No. No. No.
However, if someone doesn't handle the situation, there will be more deaths in the war, the house will be completely destroyed, and the child will die. All of these situations are CATASTROPHICALLY Unprofitable.
Our society REQUIRES people who will do the causes EVEN WHEN the effect is going to be Unprofitable!...otherwise things will be MUCH worse. We need people who will do the causes knowing they will NOT personally benefit from the EFFECTS...whether the effects are profitable or not.
These people are known as MEN.
Jesus was the Ultimate MAN. Jesus stepped into a situation that needed someone to be COMPLETELY about the causes knowing that the result was going to be Unprofitable. However, Jesus also knew that without Him, the result would be CATASTROPHICALLY Unprofitable.
Take a moment and realize what it would be like to know AHEAD OF TIME that ALL the effort you will give for three years will still end up in your death and your followers eventually being murdered...and that is the BEST POSSIBLE RESULT!
Next time you read a gospel account of Jesus, notice HOW He doesn't get excited about EFFECTS...both good and bad. Notice how He CONSTANTLY reinforces the CAUSES.
Jesus intentionally avoided His fleshly nature by ALWAYS and COMPLETELY allowing God to flow through Him. The ONLY way Jesus could ALWAYS and COMPLETELY do this was because He was ALSO divine in His Nature.
Jesus is the Ultimate Man. He was COMPLETELY about the CAUSES during His time on earth. He did the CAUSES regardless of the EFFECTS...even when He knew it would end in disaster.
Taking in everything we have read, what is the definition of "woman"?
The OUGHT definition of "woman" is "the sex of our species that OUGHT to create Profitable EFFECTS according to her uniqueness".
However, the IS definition of "woman" is - "the sex of our species that is used by the male for sexual intercourse, committing violence against, and blaming for the ills of the world. She is meant to share an adventure, unveil a beauty, and be fought for."
The Hebrew definition for the word "female" that is used in the Bible is:
Strong's #5344 naqab - "to puncture, lit. (to perforate, with more or less violence) or fig. (to specify, designate, libel): - appoint, blashpheme, bore, curse, express, with holes, name, pierce, strike through."
The world's definition of "woman" is the sex that are used for sexual intercourse, committing violence against, and blaming for the ills of the world. For instance, we saw excerpts from "Sacred Marriage" where the role of the woman was to provide sex as a cause.
More specifically, John Eldredge states in "Wild at Heart":
-"Every woman yearns to be fought for. She wants to be more than noticed – she wants to be wanted. She wants to be pursued." (p. 16)
-"Every woman also wants an adventure to share. A woman doesn't want to be the adventure; she wants to be caught up into something greater than herself." (p. 16)
-"And finally, every woman wants to have a beauty to unveil. Do you see me? asks the heart of every girl. And are you captivated by what you see? What if those deep desires in our hearts are telling us the truth, revealing to us the life we were meant to live? A woman must know she is beautiful, she must know she is worth fighting for." (p. 17)
-"Every woman needs to know that she is exquisite and exotic and chosen. This is core to her identity, the way she bears the image of God. Will you pursue me? Do you delight in me? Will you fight for me? And like every little boy, she has taken a wound as well. The wound strikes right at the core of her heart of beauty and leaves a devastating message with it: No. You're not beautiful and no one will really fight for you. Like your wound, hers almost always comes at the hand of her father." (p. 182)
Females (according to a Christian author) are COMPLETELY DEPENDENT on others in order to be "women". This is NOT what we saw in the Bible. This belief about "women" is a man-made contradictory doctrine that is making the Word and Will of God of NONE EFFECT.
Notice, Jesus is the Ultimate MAN. Jesus' Nature consists of the CAUSELESS CAUSES: Right and Just. Jesus will be able to focus on the CAUSES perfectly for eternity.
Notice, Jesus is married to the Ultimate WOMAN...The Bride...which is made up of us: The Church. We already saw that The Bride is made up of ALL the EFFECTS. The Bride will be able to create Profitable EFFECTS from the CAUSES that are provided by Jesus.
This is the PERFECT arrangement. Jesus is PERFECT and will produce the CAUSES perfectly with the absolute minimum of Unprofitability. The Bride will provide Profitability. Even if The Bride does NOT provide the Maximum Profitability all the time, she will still be Profitable and this arrangement WILL NEVER BECOME UNPROFITABLE. However, if the man was someone who could be Unprofitable, then it would be POSSIBLE for this arrangement to come to an end.
Finally, bringing this back to earlier chapters: The man initiates the interaction with his wife by taking an emotional risk.
This can only be done by a person who is SOLELY focused on the CAUSES. If he attempts to manage the EFFECTS, then he is lessening the "risk" and lowering the Profitability of the exchange.
The wife now has a CAUSE that she can turn into a Profitable EFFECT according to her uniqueness. If the woman responds in an excellent manner, the EFFECT that ends up occurring is "attraction"...and the EFFECT of that is sexual.
However, the world and the traditional church make Marriages Unprofitable by telling the woman to appeal to the man's fleshly nature by making sex a CAUSE. The man no longer supplies the CAUSE and he takes NO RISK. This encouragement of the man's fleshly nature PREVENTS the Holy Spirit from flowing through the couple and attaining OUGHT Marriage.
Let's summarize these two solutions...
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